At least that is what everyone is and has been telling him and they are wrong…kind of, well mostly, but not completely. I fought this battle with friends and family for over 15 years, but trying to explain to people that have no frame of reference is impossible.
Frank is lucky to be working with me because I am one of the few that understand that when your swing is off and feels nasty, it makes you angry enough to eat nails…but a well meaning member of your posse wants to look at it backwards…”your bad attitude is wrecking your swing and game.”
On days where we get things lined up, his attitude is awesome, even if he plays bad. On days when the feel goes awry, it doesn’t matter if it’s a new course record…expletives fly.
I fail to understand why this concept is so complicated.
This bad attitude is self perpetuating and unproductive…and that’s what the people who have an emotional attachment to the situation see…and their well meaning comments just inflame the situation more.
Let me digress. I am a fair to above average no limit hold’em player. When nothing funny is happening with the cards, I don’t lose too often. What do I mean by “funny?” When only one card in the deck can beat you (one outer) on the river, it only has a 5% chance of happening and it’s happening 25% of the time…along with all of the other %’s like frequency of premium hands, frequency of losing 80-20 hands and 50-50 hands are all going against you…the instance of losing greatly skews your normal win percentage.
Now does my attitude stinking cause my losses, or does my attitude stink because I am experiencing so many confounding losses that often defy logic and mathematics.
The answer is both. One started the slide and the other is perpetuating the slide.
Now back to Frank. The problems with his swing created the bad attitude, now the bad attitude is stunting his improvement, which he freely admits is grand.
So he is correct and I understand that the swing problems originated the attitude problems, but all anyone sees is the bad tude making the problem worse. So everyone is right and wrong and that is why the problem isn’t getting rectified.
Deep ain’t I?
Now on to what happened Friday. Frank made 9 bogies, probably more than he ever has had in his pro career. Only one was the result of a bad swing and/or a poorly struck shot. Most landed a yard or two long or short.
Now we come to the Catch-22 that is Frank’s golf game and my poker game. In Frank’s mind, he is hitting almost every shot solid and he is getting hosed…and there is a lot of truth to that. Just like in my poker game, when I get my money all in when I am way ahead and only one or two cards in the deck can save the other player…when that card hits, I feel like I got hosed.
In both situations, when it happens once, it’s part of the game, when it happens multiple times and beyond the number of times that logic would suggest is possible…it then becomes a self fulfilling prophecy and you start to expect to get screwed…and you’ll never guess what happens then.
BOHICA!!!!!! (Bend Over Here IT Comes Again)
When Tiger was dominating, he proved something beyond a shadow of a doubt. Attitude and will affects your luck. How many of his mishit shots got lucky to get the perfect bounce and find the only opening in the trees?
Let’s put aside all of my deep thinking double talk, because EVERY one of you can make your golf game better. The difference between putts falling and balls missing yardages by feet and inches is a tangible affect. Being confident and committing to the shot. Visually the swings look the same, but the balls know the difference.
The problem is it’s easy to feel sorry for yourself when you are in a 0-20 hitting slump and you keep hitting line drives at people and you hope someone is smart enough to hide the sharp objects. Problem is Frank is sponsored by a knife company and there are more sharp objects around than you can shake a broken club at.
All you can do is keep hitting the ball hard and wait until you get jammed and hit a blooper over the second baseman’s head.
We are rooting for you Frank, the pain is almost over.
EDIT…I can tell a few of you misread today’s post. I agree the bad tude about getting hosed is bad and is not helpful…and everyone understands getting hosed.
THE THING PEOPLE ARE NOT UNDERSTANDING…is the tude is not coming from that. They think it is coming from that and judging, but it is coming from frustration that the swing doesn’t feel right and not being able to commit and THAT is causing the slight mishit of shots.
As soon as his swing feels better and natural, the tude will go away…and we both know it’s not helpful, but when you start from a bad place (bad swing feel), the results make it difficult to over come.